I am interested in what kinds of infertility (etc) tests any of you have done, and if they've received any diagnosis or answers from them? A few procedures I'm especially interested in is a HSG (dye test) and a hysteroscopy.
I have read a lot of stuff about these specific things, but I just rather hear about people's first hand experiences, people that I know. What other tests do they do or procedures do they perform related to infertility (not able to become pregnant, or to carry a fetus full term). Thanks for your input and sharing!
Also, I'd like to say... I just moved out of Wymount!! It really is bitter-sweet, I will miss my ward, and my neighbors, and other perks of living so close with the ward. However, I don't think I'll miss the constant baby announcements or pregnancy announcements, etc. I feel so refreshed. We moved to Orem - in the basement of a house. Three single mid-30 girls live upstairs. None of them dating anyone seriously. I got to know two of them pretty well today... and I finally began to appreciate my mom's constant reminder "at least you're married!". I am grateful that I am married, and to a mighty fine man if I do say so myself! :) Love you all!!
Hey Megan, well I just posted in an attempt to answer some of your questions from the comment you left and from this post. Hope it helps! You're a strong woman, thank you for having the courage to start this blog! It was a miracle I found your blog and then this one, I'll have to tell you about it sometime!
ReplyDeleteMegan, this is such a beautiful blog, I wish I would have found something like this when I was struggling with bringing our family here. You are an angel!!
ReplyDeleteIt might not seem like it, but we have really had our struggles with bringing children into our family. I hope I don't offend anyone by sharing just a bit of my story. We don't seem like the typical couple to post a story on a topic like this, having five children, all through us, naturally. And if one didn't know the whole story, they would think I was a fertile myrtle. But we definitely have problems. Big ones.
We have had seven miscarriages. The first, was right away,four months into our marriage. I was 5 weeks pregnant,and I was devastated. Terrified. Then a few months after that, we were pregnant again, and had our first child, Christian. His first 6 weeks of life cost 1.6 million dollars, and he has had 7 heart surgeries. We then had two more miscarriages before Ashton was born, and they told us he would not live more than 6 weeks because of kidney failure. He is 8 years old today. After Ashton, I had two more miscarriages, one at 16 weeks. That was the most difficult for me. We had named the child, and I cried for weeks. I kept wondering what was wrong with my body to keep killing of these precious babies. Four months later I had heart surgery to correct a problem that they said can cause miscarriages--I was so excited to hopefulyy have the problem!
I then became pregnant with Audrey, and she was born 6 weeks premature after being on bedrest for 2 months from blood pressure being approximately 180/115. After Audrey, I had two more miscarriages, and I was so depressed. I thought the problem was solved... I felt like we were supposed to have children, but my body had other plans....then Lucie joined our family, after me being flat in bed for 3 months, and she was born 8 weeks early--that pregnancy was very life threatening for me. And then our last child Elise was a surprise, but no more miscarriage. The pregnancy literally almost killed me though, and the doctors had me in the hospital more than not, I believe. Each of our children, minus Ashton, cost over $30,000 (our portion) and we are very, very, very far from being wealthy by any means. (Our last 4 children cost more put together than our house.) Perhaps we will have their births paid off before they get married??
Each child that has come to our family has been a tremendous gift, but also one that we and the doctors have wondered each time if it will either take the life of the child, or my life. We are done having children, as I physically cannot have more, and I ache at that, even though we already have some. I felt so strongly, like there was a little boy, named Jacob, that was to join our family, and now.....sigh, I guess not. I am so grateful for what I do have, but sometimes I think that people don't realize that everything is not always as it appears.
If I would have had a blog like this to read, I think that it would have helped me with so much. Rob was really kind, supportive, and sad with me through it all, and cheering when things did finally turn on a postive note, but it is so good to hear other women's perpectives who are going through fertility/pregnancy issues. I felt so totally alone. Even now, it is very therapeutic for me to read this. Megan, I pray for you that you might find peace through this, and that you and Seth will have that baby that you want.
Wow Hillori! YOU are an amazing woman. What an incredible story. I wouldn't last, I could not do what you've been through, I really don't think I could!! You've opened my eyes more. I think I really struggle with my situation because it seems to be easy for the people that surround my life. I'm so grateful you shared this because now there is another like me in our family. My sister has had a miscarriage (at 11 weeks which I think is terrible! but 16 weeks!!! I can't imagine that pain you went through then, and still now I'm sure), and her mother in law (Seth's Aunt) had a miscarriage once... but other than that it's like my whole mom's side of the family is problem free... and Seth's mom's family is all problem free - and there are A LOT of cousins, and A LOT of their kids running around. And there is Seth and I, almost like outcasts :) No, it's really not that bad. But I'm just very grateful you shared this, I know you understand first hand some of the aches/pains that I feel.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you are okay now. I'm glad we knew about/was invited to go to Elise's baby blessing. I found out I was pregnant the week before that, and at the blessing was still hoping everything would work out. It made the whole situation easier to go :). I have thought about this before, but you've reminded me again through this - we do need to go on a double date sometime! Thank you Hillori!